Accountability is a Motherfucker.

When did owning up to your shit become taboo?

You have approximately 6 seconds to look up the definition of taboo before I move on and get into the important things. I did not come here to teach you the ABCs, I'm here to get to the bottom of shit while showcasing some examples. And you were my first one. Keep up.

Now that we're all on the same page, let's talk basics of accountability. Accountability, by definition is the fact or condition of being accountable. In simpler terms, it is taking responsibility for your shit. Now I understand that it's hard sometimes and some people have problems being "the bad guy". But c'mon, its 2024. The more you drag this out and play the victim card, the more people peep right through your bullshit and the more intolerable your presence becomes.

Lets be real, nobody is dealing with the self-victimizing, damsel in distress fuckery forever. This includes your (and my) horrible taste in partners, friends and how you spend your time. Pick yourself up and cut the act or you're gonna look up one day and nobody's gonna fuck with you. "Why?' you ask. Look in the mirror babe. I had to. And I'm sure everybody else with at least one braincell to break in half and rub together has too.....I really hope they have.

I can't lie, I haven't always been 100% accountable for my own bullshit (and I still struggle from time to time). But I definitely make the effort to get better about it consistently and a major part of that is holding myself accountable before anyone else can. My biggest take away from being on my own ass, has been the mental peace I receive from just being honest (with me and those around me about my fuck ups, both intentional and unintentional) and doing the work on my own. I get into my ruts and I think about lying and pushing the blame in the directions of others at times, but I know that it will only come with more mental and emotional work later. And not just for me, but for all parties involved. A major lesson in it has been, you cannot evolve if you keep doing the same stupid shit. Nobody can move you to that next platform, but you.

That brings me to our first (real) example. You cannot repeatedly lay on your back for someone who cannot function as an adult without his mommy's every direction, works maybe two days a week at one very low paying casual job (and takes all of that money and invests it into his boy-ish hobbies that do not bring forth any kind of return fruits), that takes no accountability for his own life and cry woe me and that "God did this to you" when you end up pregnant. While at times I wish SkyDaddy worked in a "hard head makes a soft ass" manner, it was you alone, babe, that made you lay down with that dog. How those flees treating you? You, my sweet, are not taking accountability and while it may fly now, its not gonna be so cute in a few months.

Is this where I grab the fire extinguisher or...?

I haven't even lit the match yet. Slow your roll.

Back to my next example. Those of you living in a constant downward spiral (with no intentions on doing the work to get out (but expecting to magically become better people)), step forward. It's your turn. You are my favorite kind of victims of all because you're not victims. YOU'RE THE DRAMA. You will lose everything you have to keep the party going. And even when you have nothing left and are at the mercy of others, the party still don't stop. If I were to shove a pill down your throat right now that had all the answers to all your problems inside, you'd throw it up and say I tried to poison you. You are the epitome of a low-low. You talk about getting better and moving forward but would rather moonwalk back into the same bullshit to be on the scene and in the midst of it all. People love you and want more for you. But we're grown and life on this fuck ass planet is bad enough on an individual basis. Nobody has time for that shit. Own up to your shit, clean up your shit and grow up. Immediately.

There's another downward spiraling, self-proclaimed victim that makes my ass itch just a bit more. And that's the kind of Tasmanian Devil that'll burn their entire life to ashes trying to prove they're in control. Not only of their life, but of everyone around them. News flash dummy, you're not. Do me a favor and reflect for me. After the dust settles from all the manipulation, back-dooring and playing victim, look around and see what's left of your life (and don't you dare lift that finger to point it at anybody who chose themself over your bullshit and try to "call them out" on anything). Because you tend to be prideful little motherfuckers and lies are your first language, I'll answer for you. Nothing good. You are left with nothing good. I'd tell you to clean up your shit, but you're just gonna tear it back down anyway. My best advice for you? Therapy. Lots of it. It that doesn't work, maybe try a lobotomy? All I can say is, best wishes and stay the hell away from me.

Okay but how do I not end up like....that?

Well friend, that depends. What's holding you back from being accountable? Are you genuinely a good person, afraid of the consequences? Or in it with ulterior motives? (yes, your non-existent image that you're trying to upkeep counts as an ulterior motive. please put your hand down.) And then there's the ones with the actual personality disorders **quick side eye ** I can't fix you, go see the lady, PLEASE.

Best I can do for you is this:

1. Be Honest. They always said "honesty is the best policy" growing up and they were not lying. I'd rather take my lashings for telling the truth vs the lashings for lying and getting caught. But hey, its up to you.

2. Admit your wrongs/faults. Nobody is right all the time and pretending you are only makes YOU look like a jackass. I promise you're not gonna get struck by lightning and die if you admit that you were wrong or you messed up. But only if you genuinely mean. Nobody wants the fake shit.

3. Apologize! We are too old to be trying to dance around the elephant in the room or sweep things under the rug (if you do this, i hope you trip over all that dirt and chip your tooth) as if they never happened and the other person (or people) isn't/aren't still sore about it. Open your mouth and apoplogize. GENUINELY. Again, nobody wants fake shit. If it ain't authentic, keep it and your sorry ass presence.

4. Eat vegetables and drink water. These actually have absolutely nothing to do with accountability. Y'all are just too old to not be incorporating these things into your diet. Oh look, now you're accountable for eating like an adult. Get on it.

In summation, get your shit together and take responsibility for it. Especially your life and your poor ass choices. And if you think I don't know what I'm talking about or that you've gotten this far by being avoidant, please remember; much like accountability, karma is a motherfucker. And she never misses.

Talk soon.

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